Happy Monday to you all! That looks a lot chirpier than I feel, but that’s nothing new. Actually, I’m in decent spirits despite having to pretty much swear off social media for my mental health. Not tweeting anymore has been nice, though after a three day break I went on to see if I was missing anything. Apparently a querying writer made waves when she tweeted her disappointment and disgust that an agent would reject her manuscript because she already had a client working on something similar. I don’t know why that writer thought she should blast that agent on social media (no names were given, but still) when it seemed perfectly reasonable to me. If I had an agent, I would want them to protect my interests first. Then there was more discourse when an agent said she had to love a story and know it would sell before she signed that author. Also, seems like a no-brainer to me, but apparently that almost started the next world war. Honestly, it’s not a great time to be an agent, and if I were one, I wouldn’t be on Twitter. My mental health couldn’t take it, not that I really can these days anyway, and it’s a relief to push that aside and accept I don’t fit in there, never have and I never will. Wouldn’t want to fit in there anyway with the behavior people are displaying. Maybe I’m just not angry, I don’t know, but I definitely don’t have the rage simmering under my skin a lot of people seem to have.

That’s why I’m not joining Threads, the new social media platform by Mark Zuckerberg. I just don’t see it being an answer to the social media void that I’m experiencing right now. People are downright hostile, and in this climate of fewer books being published, how difficult it is to find an agent, how difficult it is to self-publish and find an ounce of discoverability, it’s just another place for people to spew their annoyance, frustration, and sometimes downright hate. I don’t have a thick enough skin to handle it and I would rather just write my books, pay for ads, nurture my newsletter and forget social media all together.

I’ve been spending a little more time in my author Facebook groups, and I helped a couple of people with their covers, troubleshot Amazon Ads for one author who couldn’t understand why they were rejecting her ads (her book covers had blood on them and that’s against their guidelines) and that felt good. Got jumped in a romance group for giving my opinion on a plot because all he really wanted was validation (my mistake), and I suppose you’re never going to get away from people who only want to be agreed with. People can’t seem to scroll by if they disagree, but my tolerance for being bullied has reached an all-time low and I left that group. For now I hang out in the 20booksto50k group where if you disagree, that can actually turn into a thoughtful discussion amongst authors, and two other romance groups I’ve been apart of for years. Mark Dawson’s SPF group is okay, but there tends to be a lot of rumors that circulate there and even though Mark is a huge Amazon supporter, people like to dump on Amazon and I don’t have the patience for that.

So, as much as I know a reader should be able to find me online somewhere, I struggle. I was trying to make Instagram my “hub,” so to speak (I even posted a reel!), but deciding on the kind of content I want to post there keeps me from posting anything. I could/should start posting more on my Facebook Author page. There are several successful authors who keep up their Facebook pages, and considering my ads are clicked on the most by women ages 65+, Facebook is where a lot of my readers are. But I still can’t get past the “people know me there” dread because of the 100 some followers I have, mostly they’re my friends and family. I have a lot easier time posting about my books to strangers, but the only way I’m going to attract strangers readers to my page is if I post, so there’s a conundrum I’m not ready to figure out yet.

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In other news, my proofs for my trilogy came, and they are so gorgeous. These are probably the prettiest books I’ve made, and the spines and covers are perfect. Here’s the video I made for IG. It shows the front cover of book one, and the beautiful formatting inside. The video isn’t the best (I need practice!) and I put it on YouTube since it would be easier sharing.

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And here are the three of them together:

They are all with my proofer now and I gave her a gift card to her favorite grocery store for her time.

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While she’s doing that, I’m 25k in to a Christmas novel I’m going to release hopefully in November, if things go right. I have most of the story plotted out and I know how things are supposed to go, so I don’t think it will take me any longer than it normally does to write 80k words. Standalones are fun, and there won’t be any surprise sequels to this book. All the secondary characters are already matched up or unattached for a reason, and I did that on purpose. It seems my downfall is when my characters have single friends, so I made sure I didn’t tempt myself.

Things are going okay, personally, too, though I do have to fight off the writer lonelies every once in a while. I have very few friends anymore to talk writing with, one of the sad outcomes about my split with my ex-fiancé. We would constantly talk books, marketing, publishing, and the silly things we’d see online. A year later and that’s still a hole I just haven’t managed to fill, and probably never will. Now if I see something outrageous or I have a comment on something, I keep it to myself or sometimes message a friend. But I can’t tell her every little thing and being that our lives are different, she probably doesn’t care, either, haha. It’s not really a secret that I live and breathe writing, publishing, and marketing because I don’t have much of a life beyond that, my kids, and my job. Finding somewhere to fit in is difficult for a lot of people, so I’m not embarrassed sharing my struggles.

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That’s all I have this week. Bryan Cohen is hosting his 5 Day Amazon Ads Profit Challenge starting on Wednesday the 19th. He taught me all I know about Amazon Ads and besides my newsletter, it’s the only way I sell books. There are days where I don’t make much– a sale and a handful of page reads, but it’s better than having an empty sales dashboard. 2023 is the first year I’ve had zero no-sale or no-page read days. Zero, and I attribute that to niching down to billionaire romance, being more serious about my covers, and knowing how to run ads. I’m not saying I’ve never lost money, but that’s pretty much a given when you’re experimenting and testing. BUT Bryan helps you control that, so if you’ve been meaning to learn Amazon Ads, this a great free way to do it. Here are the links, and they are not affiliates. I don’t get anything when you sign up–I just share the info because I think his free class is a great place to start if you want to learn.

Sign up: https://learn.bestpageforward.net/jul23/

Facebook group for the challenge: https://www.facebook.com/groups/2230194167089012

Have a great week!